Everyone will face many setbacks in their life. Some people become more courageous as they get frustrated, some people take it lightly, and some people tend to fall apart.
Psychologists believe that a person’s achievements are decisive when IQ and EQ are similar.
People with high inverse quotient tend to have a high sense of control, tend to find reasons from themselves when they encounter difficulties, will not extend and magnify frustration, and have an indomitable spirit. To use an old saying, that is, the divine power of phoenix nirvana.
The lower inverse quotient can make the talented and intelligent people feel helpless and bewilder everyone.
Children who are against the quotient are firm and tough. They never give up lightly. They can face setbacks and find new breakthroughs and opportunities from them. They will come back against the wind!
What are the main manifestations of children with low adverse quotient
1. Lose your temper.
If the child is irritable, he will lose his temper at every turn, which is a major manifestation of low adversity quotient.
2. Depressed.
These children have low frustration resistance. When they encounter setbacks, they tend to get helpless and can't get up again when they fall.
3. Suicide.
The main reason for children committing suicide is that they are not able to withstand difficulties and setbacks. When they have emotional problems such as anxiety and depression, they don't know how to solve them, and mistakenly believe that they can only relieve their pain by suicide.
How to improve baby's adversity quotient?
1. Give children a chance to experience failure
Some parents will ask this question: What should I do if my child can't afford to lose?
When the building block falls, I cry; when the game loses, I lose my temper: "I won't play anymore!" When playing chess, the adults cannot win, and they get angry when they win;
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These are all because the child has not established the correct view of winning or losing, or when the adult is playing with the child, he blindly accommodates and allows the child.
We need to make it clear to our children that there are many possibilities in the game. Some people win and some people lose, but these are only temporary and there will be more challenges in the future. Losing is not terrible, it is terrible to be afraid of losing.
2. Encourage and help children, not do it for you
In the eyes of many parents, the key to adverse quotient education is to "deliberately" create setbacks for children, deliberately let children suffer a little bit, and let them continue to feel failure.
There is no need for our children to accept some artificially meaningless setbacks, because there are countless small challenges in the growth of children.
Going out for the first time, cooking for the first time, and washing clothes for the first time are all opportunities for children to grow up. The important thing is that parents are willing to let their children try and let their children make their own choices.
3. Recognize and ease children's emotions
When a child encounters a setback, parents must first provide emotional support, rather than combat denial. Parents should pay attention to what the child is going through, identify with the child’s emotions, such as sadness, helplessness, and empathize with the child. The sufficient love and understanding of parents is the inner strength of children in the face of setbacks.