How to find what your child really loves?
What is true love
Some people say that true love is giving without repayment; some people say that true love is pure and hot feeling; some people say that true love is spontaneous and conscious action without being urged by others.
True love is pure and simple. Everyone has dreams that they want to fight for when they are young, but as we grow older, we sway in reality and dreams time and time again. Because of this, we admire the pure and simple enthusiasm of others.
True love does not need to be deliberately insisted. For them, what they love has already become a part of life, a spontaneous behavior, without the supervision or urging of others, and is never intended to show others deliberately.
Enthusiasm needs to be continuously cultivated. If you stop moving forward, no matter how high your enthusiasm is, it will slowly die out. The true love is learning and progress.
How to find what your child really loves
1. Don't stop what the child really wants to do.
What the child really wants to do, no matter how useless, strange, or wasting time, as long as you don’t hurt yourself, others, and the world, let him do it as much as you want.
"Love" is not "something", let alone "something useful". It is a feeling of immersion and a sense of happiness that can make the brain produce dopamine.
The younger the children, the more they are allowed to experience the secretion of dopamine, so when our children grow up, they will not say "I don't know what I love."
2, the child has tried to really want to give up, don't force it.
Nothing is "love at first sight". Only after experiencing "dislike" can you slowly know what you like. Only by being allowed to "give up" can we dare to try more unknown areas.
Because the child is still young and the cost of trial and error is very low, we must let the children experience more without utilitarianism and let them choose more.
But if we can allow children to do what they like without interrupting, this in itself is nourishing "love."
3. Shaping the character in "do not do business properly"
Let the children experience love first, and experience hard work, success, and challenge failure in the process of doing what they love.
Because love shapes the qualities, and these qualities in turn can shape the child.
To achieve these three points, our children don’t need to wait until they are like us and come up to make a list of their “love things” when they are adults; nor do they need to be like us, who have been ignorant and understood for most of their lives before they start thinking. Love the question.
"Love" this matter, the earliest experience, the earliest thinking, naturally the sooner it will be transparent.